{"id":22840,"date":"2017-08-14T11:24:56","date_gmt":"2017-08-14T15:24:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/therapytoronto.ca\/news\/?p=22840"},"modified":"2017-08-15T23:54:20","modified_gmt":"2017-08-16T03:54:20","slug":"secret-to-giving-the-perfect-gift-stop-being-afraid","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/therapytoronto.ca\/news\/2017\/08\/secret-to-giving-the-perfect-gift-stop-being-afraid\/","title":{"rendered":"Secret to giving the perfect gift: stop being afraid"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>From the\u00a0Society for Consumer Psychology press release:<\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p id=\"first\" class=\"lead\"><img loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-9456\" src=\"http:\/\/therapytoronto.ca\/news\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/presents.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"215\" \/>Have you ever faced the daunting task of deciding what gift to give a significant other, friend or relative? And once you finally find a gift, will it be well received?<\/p>\n<div id=\"text\">\n<p>Researchers at Carnegie Mellon University conducted a study to investigate whether recipients are getting the gifts they want, and their findings suggest that the answer is no. <strong>When given the choice of receiving a gift that has sentimental value<\/strong> &#8212; such as a photograph of a special memory &#8212; <strong>versus a more superficial gift<\/strong> &#8212; such as a jersey from a favorite sports team &#8212; <strong>givers opt for the superficial gift more often that their recipients expect<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>Why are gift givers missing the mark? The researchers found that <strong>most people are unsure whether a sentimental gift will be well-liked, but they are confident that a superficial gift aligning with someone&#8217;s interests and preferences will be enjoyed<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Essentially, givers seem to view sentimentally valuable gifts as having the potential to be either home runs or strikeouts, but they view preference-matching gifts as a sure single,&#8221; says Julian Givi, lead author of the study. &#8220;Rather than risking a strikeout, they go for the sure thing, when what recipients truly desire are sentimentally valuable gifts.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The researchers discovered this mismatch between givers and receivers in two separate experiments. In the first, participants were told to write down the name of a friend, and those who were &#8220;givers&#8221; were asked to select a gift for the friend. Some were told it would be a birthday gift while others were told it was for a going away party. They could choose either a framed photo of their friend&#8217;s favorite musician, or a framed photo of the two friends on a day they had a lot of fun together. The participants who were &#8220;recipients&#8221; were asked to select which of the two gifts they would prefer to receive.<\/p>\n<p>The study results provided evidence that <strong>people do not give sentimentally valuable gifts as often as recipients would prefer<\/strong>. The researchers also tested to see whether the level of closeness of two friends made the gift giving mismatch disappear, but there was still a discrepancy.<\/p>\n<p>Then they tested whether this pattern emerged when romantic partners were giving gifts to one another. In the experiment, partners could give either a gift card to their loved one&#8217;s favorite store, or a sentimental gift, such as a photo of the couple with carved initials in the frame. Like the previous experiment, recipients didn&#8217;t receive the sentimental gifts as often as they wished.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, the researchers conducted a study to uncover why givers were not choosing sentimental gifts. In this experiment, one group of participants started by writing about a time in their lives when they took a risk that paid off, while the other group wrote about a time when they took a risk and failed. Then the groups were asked to read a vignette in which they were deciding between two bicycle gifts for a friend. One of the bicycles had sentimental value, while the other was made by a brand the recipient liked.<\/p>\n<p>The results were consistent with the researchers&#8217; hypothesis: <strong>The participants who had written about risks paying off were much more likely to choose the sentimental gift compared to those who had written about risks failing<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;People spend billions of dollars every year on gifts, and the data suggests that they&#8217;re not spending money in the best way possible,&#8221; Givi says. &#8220;We are also finding evidence in a different project that <strong>people feel closer to givers when they receive sentimental gifts<\/strong>, so people should keep this in mind the next time they&#8217;re making gift-giving decisions.&#8221;<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/blockquote>\n<!-- AddThis Advanced Settings generic via filter on the_content --><!-- AddThis Share Buttons generic via filter on the_content -->","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From the\u00a0Society for Consumer Psychology press release: Have you ever faced the daunting task of deciding what gift to give a significant other, friend or relative? 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